One of my favorite comedians, Iliza Schlesinger, talks a lot about feminism in the 21st century and I think she really nails it on the head with her bit about being confident when men are being gross. “When a guy yells something disgusting at you, because you are strong, you yell back…”
It’s never a great feeling to think you would be powerless against someone who is trying to hurt you. When you are consistently training in martial arts, you are training your body to have an immediate reaction. Throwing a powerful punch becomes muscle memory. Once you have that in your back pocket you will start to embody a new mindset of being more confident in those moments.
I like to compare it to using cruise control while on a long road trip. Not using cruise control isn’t a bad thing until you realize you are going 20 miles over the speed limit and you get pulled over for speeding. If you use cruise control then you have a greater peace of mind knowing that you aren’t in danger of speeding. It’s the same thing with knowing how to defend yourself.